Deep Check-in
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"Hit the re-set button."
"Upgrade my operating system."
"I suddenly feel refreshed."
These are some of the feedbacks from deep check-ins.
Deep check-in is a practice in relating authentically (Authentic Relating or AR).
Like other AR practices it's designed to be a fun, simple and highly growthful.
Here's an example of how it could work.
When 2 people have agreed to practice this it's on.
1-on-1 Deep Check-In
There are 2 roles - listener and speaker.
There's a total agreed time, like 20 minutes or 40 minutes.
There's a pre-agreed time limit for each speaker to speak, like 5 minutes or 10 minutes, and a maximum time for feedback and discussion.
There's an opening question for the speaker to speak to - like
"What have you been thinking about recently?" or
"What's your inner weather like?" or
"How's life?"
The listener's job is to "hear the other person" within their share.
This is NOT an opportunity for lecturing, teaching, judging, coaching or for the listener to tell the speaker about the listener.
It's a time for discerning. It's perhaps something like a wine tasting.
The listener's job is to pick up on, discern or discover what's unique coming from the speaker themselves and appreciate that.
After the speaker finishes speaking, the listener may ask if the speaker wants feedback.
There are 3 feedback sentence stems - or partial sentences to be completed with information from the speaker.
- A moment I really felt YOU was...
- Other things I noticed were...
- So what I think I get about you now is...
After each share from the listener they ask "Does that land?" or "Does that resonate as true for you?"
Here's a chance for the speaker to add or clarify or simply say yes or no, etc. ... whatever authentically needs to be spoken.Then they switch roles and it's done.
Studio Tainan's Online Group Check-in
We're offering this as a prototype activity. We do it a LOT 1-on-1 or in small groups and it's been suggested that it be a key group practice to offer widely. Let's see!
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深度check-in（Deep Check-in）
"觸碰重新開始的按鈕。"
"系統自我更新。"
"那一瞬間我覺得神清氣爽。"
這些都來自 深度check-in 的回饋。
深度check-in 是一種關於真實溝通的練習，它可以被設計成簡單有趣且具有高度成長的樣子，就像其他真實溝通的練習一樣，以下的範例介紹它是如何進行的。
當 2 個人同意練習時，它就開始了。
- 一對一的深度 check-in
- 有兩個角色，聆聽者和說話者
- 共同決定時間，例如：20 分鐘或 40分鐘
- 時間取決於大家的同意就可以
每次的說話者時間取決於剛剛的時講長短，而剩下的時間則是拿來回饋。
Ｑ：如何引發說話者開始說話？
Ａ：不同人會有不同的方式，也有可能說話者自己已經開始準備好，也有可能聆聽者需要問問題來開始。
例如：
“你最近在想些什麼?”
“你現在內心天氣怎麼樣?”
“最近生活如何?”
聆聽者的任務就是要 “聽到對方”。 而不是講課、教學、批判、輔導的機會，更不是分享聆聽者的反應。
就像品酒一樣，是一個觀察對方覺醒的時刻。
聆聽者的工作就是要去分辨或發現說話者獨特之處並欣賞，在說話者結束時，聆聽者可以詢問對方是否需要回饋。
- 回饋
有三種 (Sentence stems) 回饋，Sentence stems的意思是 ：用一段片語繼續下去來完成。
- 我感受到你，特別是在你說ＯＯＯ的時後 。
- 另外，我注意到ＯＯＯ…
- 所以，我幻想現在的你是…
在聆聽者回饋完後，都會反問對方”有點到嗎?”
這時候說話者就有機會簡短的釐清真正要傳達的意思，然後雙方互換角色進行下一輪直到結束。
在 Studio Tainan 裡有一個項目是線上群族的深度對話
我們以此當基礎的模板，作為一對一或是小組進行。
讓我們準備迎接驚喜。